What do you do with a little girl that loves her dresses? Fancy her in dresses! My daughter has always appreciated dresses and loves picking out new styles. Luckily, most of her ensembles are very affordable and don’t hurt mama’s pocket. This candy-striped sundress number was under $5 from our favorite place, H&M. She hand-picked her sandals from Old Navy.
Before we headed out for a Sunday birthday party, she posed by a flowerbed. We also visited a tractor that has been parked in our neighborhood for so long that my kids affectionately named him. Seeing as how Martin The Tractor didn’t seem to mind, we snapped a few quick pics with him too! See all her pics below.
Can we talk about baby showers for a sec? Because most of them are traditional, conservative and reserved. If this is your style, then cool! Not hating at all! But if you’re anything like me, you’re a sucker for pushing the envelope and breaking away from monotony. What if I told you that a baby shower can be more like a day-party with the right elements? If you’re still reading, you probably like to switch things up too! Are you interested in throwing a non-boring, co-ed baby shower extravaganza? Do you want a shower that stands out? I’ve got you covered!
This past weekend, I was honored to serve on my sister’s baby shower committee! Two babies, double trouble, double the sass. Now I love dress shopping, but I wanted to find the perfect number for this special occasion. I needed something that said elegant, sexy, sassy, and a little funky. This H&M dress said all of those things, so I scooped it up the moment I saw it! H&M does not have every line at every store, nor do they make every dress available online. But here is a link to some similar styles. The earrings are from Forever 21, and the gold pumps are Jessica Simpson, on clearance at DSW!
Whenever Father’s Day rolls around I find myself appreciative, conflicted and then angry throughout the day (in that order) with all the mixed messages I see floating around social media and the innanet (aka messy internet). And this is the year I want to talk about it because it has become a giant elephant in the room.
Fathers play a critical role in shaping the thoughts and feelings of their daughters at a young age. In most cases, they are the first man that a young girl sees and trusts. It’s no surprise that she hangs onto his every word. More importantly, daughters pay close attention to how a father behaves and learns much about the world through his actions. So many women look back at their father-daughter relationship with appreciation, reverence and love.
Fathers are not back-up, the help, or the assistant.
In fact, they aren’t adjuncts in any shape or fashion. They are tenured parents with full-time roles and responsibilities, other duties as assigned, and no union rights available. Fathers are parents, not babysitters. And yet I often hear them referred to in these auxiliary roles, as if they are dangling onto a family unit by a mere thread. Sometimes they even jokingly refer to themselves this way: “I’m on dad duty tonight.” I know, I know, it’s sometimes said out of love. But words matter and get stuck deep down in our subconscious and have an impact. “Duty” implies that it’s some sort of unwanted gig and “tonight” sounds like a temporary, obtrusive and interim hang-up. Why?
We don’t get out often, can’t you tell? We’ve been drifting in this thing called motherhood for a while now, some of us longer than others, and we get a little too excited when we get to pop out on the town. Why? Because of life, kids, motherhood…did I mention life? Getting in a quick date during the week after a long day of work can be a great way to break up the monotony. Weekends are even better! But rest assured, when we do get out we have a ball! And this is why moms should date their mommy friends.
Okay, this is a sweet little note for the fellas because I think you all need a little tweaking in this area. Now look, don’t be mad at me…I’m just the messenger! But every year, Mother’s Day rolls around and I listen to my mom friends whine and vent, totally bummed about not really getting what they wanted for Mother’s Day. And I think the main reason is that many of you men totally miss the mark on this one. Perhaps this isn’t your fault, you really do try to make a special day and for that moms are eternally grateful! But, what if I told you there was something else moms wanted more than anything…. something that may have never occurred to you?
I’m not a natural morning person. I wasn’t born loving this lifestyle. In fact, I used to hate mornings! When I was younger, mornings always meant I had to do something I didn’t want to do, be somewhere I didn’t want to be, or just perform in general. The world wanted too much from me in the AM! #AintNobodyGotTimeFaThat! Before kids, I stayed up late, slept until 10 am, and finally rolled out the house mid-afternoon. The world came alive in the evening, I lived for the glamor of the night. Mornings weren’t even on my radar, didn’t recognize them. I couldn’t even pick out Morning in a lineup. Morning was a hater.
Libraries may be “out of style” for us adults now that Kindles and electronic reading have taken over virtually everything. Who wants to be concerned with hard-backed books and the Dewey Decimal System (lol, that’s a throwback) when you have Wikipedia, virtual libraries, and Google? Well hold tight. Before you throw the baby out with the bathwater, don’t forget that local libraries are a great resource for families and they offer more than just books!
Matching t-shirts, picnics, whiffs of tender BBQ floating through the air, line-dancing, everyone getting along… well getting along most of the time. You know what I’m talking about. Oh yes, the black family reunion, baby! It’s a pretty standard concept and most of us have been to one, whether we bounce through every few years or attend regularly. You always know when family reunion season hits because summer weekends get clogged with festivities and you can spot those t-shirts anywhere! I should know, I have about 17 from my childhood.
As I watch my children grow, I often daydream about the life I want them to lead and think of ways I can prepare and expose them for what is to come. I won’t always be able to block them from negativity and I cannot promise everything will always go their way. But I will give them the tools to succeed and wish for the best.
The swing-hogger. Now this child, usually one of mine, thinks the swing belongs to them and only them. No, they don’t want to share. No, they will not get down. The swing is the park’s prized possession and it’s the only thing they are getting on! It’s their favorite activity and they are not moving!